Surviving Summer: Finding Balance as a Parent

Hello Parents!

Summer is here, and while the season brings the joy of sunny days and family adventures, it also means our kids are home all day, every day. Schedules are disrupted, routines are thrown off, and everyone is in each other’s space more than usual. It’s no surprise that tensions can rise during this time.

As parents, it’s important to acknowledge that feelings of stress and anger are natural. We all feel overwhelmed at times, especially when our usual routines are upended. However, it's crucial to remember that when these feelings peak, we should not take them out on our children. Instead, taking a moment to walk away, breathe deeply, and compose ourselves can make a world of difference. Once we’re calmer, we can address the situation more effectively, fostering better communication with our children. This not only helps resolve conflicts more smoothly but also teaches our kids valuable lessons in handling emotions and communicating effectively.

Our role as parents is to raise children who can thrive, but that doesn't mean we should neglect our own well-being. In fact, prioritizing our own needs is essential for maintaining the energy and patience required to care for our families. Even superheroes need a day off, after all. If you find yourself needing a break, it’s okay to take one. Whether it’s a drive, a walk, or an evening with friends, taking time for yourself is not just permissible—it’s necessary.

Here are a few tips to help you navigate the summer months with less stress and more peace:

1. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries for both you and your children. Let them know when it’s time for independent play or quiet time, and respect those boundaries for yourself as well.

2. Create a Schedule: Even though summer is less structured, a loose schedule can provide a sense of normalcy. Plan activities, downtime, and special outings to keep everyone engaged.

3. Listen to YOUR Body's Needs: Take care of YOU. Whether it’s a daily walk, reading a book, or simply sitting in the garden with a cup of tea, find what rejuvenates you and make time for it.

4. Stay Connected: Reach out to friends and family. Sharing your experiences and getting support from other parents can be incredibly helpful.

5. Communicate Openly: Keep the lines of communication open with your children. Let them know how you’re feeling and encourage them to express their feelings too. This builds a foundation of trust and understanding.

Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish; it’s essential for being the best parent you can be. By ensuring your own well-being, you’re modeling self-care and emotional health for your children.

Wishing you a summer filled with wonderful memories, plenty of relaxation, and lots of love. Many blessings to you and your family!

Warm regards,

~Dr. Abi